The decision to try for a baby is such a wonderful thing but for many couples can result in frustration and despair. Whilst some couples may be aware of specific problems such as low AMH levels, poor sperm quality, pcos, endometriosis, recurrent miscarriage, many cases are unexplained. I have undergone a number of specialist training courses and have a lot of experience in treating fertility issues with acupuncture and herbs, helping many couples conceive.
There is so much that can be done to improve couples chances of conception for both men and women using acupuncture and in some cases herbal medicine. Patients are treated according to both Chinese and Western medicine diagnosis. Attention is paid to diet and lifestyle and patients should see improvements in both physical and emotional wellbeing.
Taking your Basal body temperature (BBT)
In most cases I will suggest that women chart their basal body temperature each morning. If the cycle is irregular or the woman isn’t sure of her time of ovulation then BBT charting can give vital information as to what is happening. The thermometers are cheap to buy, (it’s worth getting one that is sensitive to two decimal points) and it’s necessary to take the temperature immediately upon waking, at the same time every morning.
I’m particularly keen on the BBT charting as it not only gives us specific information on the cycle, it also gives me direct feedback as to the changes occurring as we proceed with treatment!
When is the best time to have sex?
The best time to have sex are days 9-16 (for a 28 day cycle). How often is up to the couple. There are varying opinions as to whether, once a day, twice a day, every other day, morning or evening is best. My feeling is that whatever suits the couple although every other day is probably best as this maintains the quality of sperm. Young couples might not find once or twice a day too much of a challenge but forcing the issue could lead to exhaustion and resentment.
It’s important to maintain a healthy loving relationship and sex life. I’ve jokingly suggested to couples that the woman provides a signal such as hanging a pair of lacy knickers on the bedroom door to signal her fertile phase. As silly as it sounds, it could be a way of keeping things light and fun. Incompatible work schedules and stress puts pressure on couples trying to conceive. The sperm survives for 4-5 days, so even if a couple only manage to have sex a couple of times during the most fertile phase, conception is still possible.
We have been trying to conceive for a year now and nothing has happened.
Don’t panic! It’s considered quite normal for conception to take as long as twelve months or more and it’s not necessarily an indication that anything is wrong. However, a good starting point is ensuring that the male partner has a sperm test and the woman charts her BBT for 2-3 months (see above).
Don’t however let it take over your life. Getting stressed and obsessive about conceiving is not going to be helpful. Taking a break from ‘trying’, having some fun, putting away the fertility monitors etc might be just what you need for a few months. There’s certainly plenty of anecdotal reports that couples get pregnant as soon as they stop trying.
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